Let’s Marry Harry Episode 1 Recap: Is Harry Jowsey Actually Husband Material?

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Marriage isn't the reward you receive because you're finally sick of sleeping around.

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Okay, I have a confession. So I started watching Let's Marry Harry, fully expecting to hate watch this thing. Because for those of you that don't know, okay, basically this premise is absolutely ridiculous. Harry Jowsey is a man who has basically built his entire career about around being hot, charming, horny, and basically terrible at relationships. And he has apparently decided that he's ready for a wife.

Okay. Now, not a girlfriend. He's not looking for an exclusive relationship. He's not saying, Hey, let's see where this goes. He wants a wife, you guys. And apparently the best way to determine whether you're ready for marriage is to basically be the bachelor, right? Put twenty beautiful women in a house, give them engagement rings, and just start dating all of them at once. Now

To me, this sounds like this would be, you know, probably Harry's dream in the dating world, not really the world to find a wife. I find this a very interesting way to find a wife or basically a fuckboy, right? Because that's what Harry is. So what could possibly go wrong? Hmm, not sure. We're gonna find out. But here's the problem. So I watched episode one and I kind of liked him, which frankly pisses me off. Because

Today we're gonna talk about episode one of Let's Marry Harry. We're gonna talk about my first impressions of the women, whether I believe Harry is actually changed and actually ready to find a wife and get married. And we're gonna talk about something that the show immediately made me think about, which is: can a man with a history of being emotionally unavailable suddenly decide that he's husband material? Or is Harry Jowsey

Just doing what a lot of people do in dating, which is wanting the outcome without necessarily becoming the person capable of creating it. Because wanting a wife and being ready to be a husband are two very different things. So I'm very excited to jump into this. I kind of want to recap the episode, but I really want to give my take on a lot of this because I watched it through this lens of like, holy shit.

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Are you kidding me? Like, how do these women not see that? You know, how are they just listening to everything he says and taking it at face value when they know he's a player? He's been through different things, different shows. I can't remember all the shows he's been on. I don't want to say he started on Love Island. I think he's been on Too Hot to Handle. there's been many, many shows he's been on. So we've had plenty of opportunity to see who Harry Jowsey actually is. Yet these women are coming on here with a clean slate practically.

Acting like they've never even seen him before and don't know what he's capable of. Just gonna say that. Anyways, I'm very excited to get into this and talk about this. So here we go. If you do not live inside the Netflix reality television universe, here is what you need to know. Harry is 29 years old. Harry is Australian. Ding ding. Harry is six five. Ding ding. Ridiculously charming.

And he's basically been making questionable romantic decisions on television since his early twenties. I am supporting my made in the nineties shirt in in support of Harry Jowsey, who was obviously made in the 90s. Now Harry has been on the show as Too Hot to Handle. He's been on Perfect Match. I am almost positive. He was also on Love Island. I could be wrong there. I should have done my homework on that one. But he has been through a lot of public relationships, a lot of public breakups.

He's been through a lot of women, you guys, a lot of flirting, a lot of mess. And Harry himself isn't pretending like he's anything otherwise. He's not totally coming on there saying that's not who I am or who I was and that I am a completely changed person. He's essentially coming into this saying, I've been the problem, which I admit I actually appreciate as someone who takes accountability because there's nothing worse than a man with a trail of relationship wreckage behind him going,

Mm-hmm. I just haven't met the right woman yet. Sir, let's say this. At some point, we do have to examine the common denominator, which is, in this case, actually Harry. Now, why does he suddenly want to get married? That's a really great question, right? So this is where episode one gets more interesting to me. because episode one was a real setup episode. It was letting us know who Harry was, where he's coming from. It introduced the women, talked about who they are, what they're

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Careers are, what they're looking for, why they're on the show now. Harry also talks about losing his father and how that changed him, which can really change somebody, their direction they're headed, where their beliefs are and where they see their life going. So I will give him that. Is it too soon? I believe when the show aired, it's been less than a month since his father passed away. Is it too soon to actually feel that? Is that just the emotional?

aftermath of of losing someone where you start going, you know, I need to really figure out my life and figure out where I want to go with this. I'm not sure. He said that realizing his dad would never meet his future wife or children really made him look at life differently. Again, are we taking this at face value? Yeah, I do believe that, right? Lost can absolutely rearrange your priorities like that. It can make all that superficial bullshit that you've been chasing for so many years suddenly feel incredibly unimportant. So

I'm not going to mock that part of it. I was just trying to give some clarity and some context on that. But as I just mentioned, grief can also make you want a different life. It doesn't automatically mean that you are equipped to handle that different life. And so that I think has been my first big question about Harry. Does he actually want to be a husband or does he want to just have a wife that represents, right?

Because a wife for him, well, let's see, that would represent family. It would represent stability. It would represent a home, someone waiting for him, children, which he's spoken freely. He loves kids. He's always wanted kids. There would be that. Maybe just a life that feels a little bit more meaningful than just going on these consistent, crazy wild dating shows and seeing where he ends up. Now, wanting those things, being capable of sustaining them.

Are not the same thing though. It's very, very difficult. And I think that's where we're gonna find out which one this is for him. So next up we had the introduction of the 20 fiances. So this concept is insane, you guys. They're not his girlfriend. So he's never met them before. They've never hung out. They've never had conversations, connections, compatibility, chemistry, any of that. He doesn't know if he's gonna find any of that. So basically they are coming on this show as strangers to him.

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They are not his girlfriends. They are not contestants. They are his fiances. Everybody gets an engagement ring coming in. That's the first thing they do. They are putting on these real beautiful, a lot of carrot engagement rings. Now, they don't get to keep them, obviously, as they get eliminated throughout the process. Those do actually get eliminated as well. but the last one will most likely get that engagement ring, hopefully.

And then, you know, continue on to get married. So in the show, 20 women walk in, knowing the potential end game isn't will you accept this rose? It's basically, nice to meet you. Would you potentially like to legally combine assets with me? And let's do this thing. It's a little crazy. And this is where I immediately started watching the women more than I was watching Harry. Cause we already kind of know, or at least I know who Harry is from what he's portrayed in all of these shows that he's been on. This is nothing new.

Right. But with the women, I want to know what makes a woman sign up to potentially marry a man whose dating history is publicly available on Netflix. She can see it all. This is not like you are, you know, signing up on a dating app and you meet somebody that you're not getting their true story up front. You have no idea who they really are. You haven't talked to any of their f their friends, their family. You haven't even really had a chance to Google them. This is clearly on Netflix.

On Peacock, on Paramount, wherever we're watching all these shows, we have clearly seen what Harry is all about. So you can't really say I didn't know he was like this. Girl, there are seasons. There are seasons of this. So the part that I really find fascinating, and here's what I want us to watch throughout this series, is how much are these women actually evaluating Harry versus trying to get Harry to choose them?

Now, you guys, I have spoken about this on numerous episodes, about how you want to be chosen. You want to feel like you are that person, right? You're not doing the chasing. You're not sitting around asking, do they like me? I wonder if they want to see me again. Am I gonna, you know, hear from them today? Do they wanna pursue this with me? What about you? What do you want? Do I see this man as the person I want to marry?

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You know, I do I see him as somebody who could potentially provide me with a family that I am going to love and adore and be proud of and and know that their father is this amazing father. Is this a man that can set his personal selfish needs aside? I mean, as far as we've seen with Harry, you know, he is a love bomber. He is toxicity, he's a walking toxic bomb, he is a little bit of a narcissist, right? Like there's so many things here that have already been

available to us so many times throughout this whole reality thing. And yet we have 20 women who are on here already knowing this and just actually putting all of that aside and hoping that in the short amount of time that they're gonna spend with Harry, I'm not even sure what the time frame is prior to an engagement, that they're going to change him or see something in him that is completely different than what he's shown the world on every other channel.

So I really think that this is being presented to us as Harry being the prize within the structure of this show. But if we're talking about marriage, he shouldn't automatically be the prize in this. He should actually be auditioning too, just like these women are. He should be looking at them, wondering, are they really gonna like me? Do they see who I really am? If they only knew me, they would know. Da-da-da-da. Like that's what he should be looking at, them, not there to be like, who is the luckiest woman that's gonna get to be with me? Right.

Next up, we also have an introduction to Harry's confidants. So he brings in one of his closest friends.

his closest friends, Amanda Klutz. He also brings in an ex-girlfriend of his from a few years back that they had a significant relationship. So I find that one really interesting. And then he also brings in his brother, who is married with children. So Harry has actually seen a positive relationship viewing, right? Like he knows what that looks like as he sees his brother. So he brought him in to also help. So we have Amanda Klutz, we have Sonny Hentney and

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Of course, we have his ex, Georgia Hazerati. So having an ex to choose you or new wife, I think is a little wild, but actually she may be one of the most valuable people here, right? Because who knows your relationship patterns better than somebody who actually dated you before. Now, your best friend is going to know the version of you that you tell them about.

So that's what Amanda's gonna find. But the ex knows the version that she actually dated. So she actually knows exactly what Harry Dowsey is about and hopefully can help him to break some of his relationship patterns. Right. So Harry's actually admitted that basically his picker may be broken, which has happened for a lot of us. I've talked about that many times throughout the podcast about how we feel like our picker is broken. We keep going after the same person because we are not breaking that relationship pattern.

We are doing what feels familiar and comfortable to us. So, yes, this is stepping out of that comfort zone for Harry. And he is actually going to you know, have to put himself out there and and try to figure out who he really is and what he's looking for and change his relationship pattern. So allowing other people to actually have influence over who stays is probably one of the healthiest decisions that he or Netflix has made in this situation.

Which is not a particularly high bar, let's just say, but it is growing. Okay, so let's get back to these 20 women. I want to talk about my first impression of these women. So there are 20 women, and I'm not gonna sit here and pretend like I remember everyone's names because I don't, and I know you do not either. Half of America is not gonna remember their names, but we are going to learn this together over the next few weeks of actually recapping this show. I'm gonna immediately put them into categories. The ones I think that actually Harry is going to like.

Because there's chemistry, but you know, they're not losing their minds because a tall Australian man looked at them. They're not going all crazy, right? These are the women that I'm watching. These are the ones that should potentially move on throughout the process. He should be able to see that they are there for him more than just for his looks or actually intentional about getting to know him. Then we have the I can fix him women. Danger, danger, danger.

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If your attraction to a man is partially based on the idea that you are going to be able to fix them, well, or you know, they're actually thinking I am going to be the final woman who makes the notorious bachelor actually settle down, well, we need to talk because being that woman who changes him is not a relationship goal. That's not how we want to do this. The women who may be here for TV.

There's another category. Let's not be children. This is Netflix. Harry has millions of followers. Everybody knows what this opportunity could potentially do for their career or their social media. That doesn't mean that nobody can fall in love, but two things can be true at the same time, right? So you can think Harry is hot and think 500,000 new Instagram followers wouldn't ruin your week. You can do both of those things. And then there are always the one or two kind of straggler women on the shows where I'm watching and thinking, you need to leave immediately. I'm not.

Sure why you're still here. Not because Harry doesn't like you, because you are already showing me that you're going to abandon every standard you've ever had if this man gives you enough attention. So those are the women that I'm also watching very closely. So we have all of these different categories of women that I'm going to put them into. I'm kind of putting them into boxes. And then we'll see how it ends up in the end. If I was right, right? I want to kind of know if I have a good judge on this. Maybe I do, maybe I don't.

But here's the controversial tip, right? I don't think that Harry's past automatically disqualifies him from being a good husband because people can change. And I actually hate when we say we want people to grow and then we refuse to ever allow them to be anything other than they were at 23. Right. So I think that's I think that's a really good thing because he's been going through these years. He has every right at 29.

To feel like he's ready to get married. that's a great age for that. Like he's ready to settle down. And why shouldn't he? Maybe he is different than he's been all these years. You've been on TV, you obviously play it up a little bit more too. Has that created this? scary Harry? Ooh, I like that. Scary Harry. Maybe, because he is a little scary throughout. If you watch the rest of the season, you will see there are times when I'm

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cringing and I'm like, my God, Harry, no, no, no. And I really, really feel for him. But you know, just thinking about it, I mean, he was very young when a lot of America first met him. He was 23. He's almost 30 now. So could he have changed? Absolutely. But you don't prove your change, but you don't prove that you've changed by just saying, I'm ready. You prove it through your behavior, your actions. How do you handle temptation? How do you communicate when somebody is upset?

Can you tolerate the boredom? Could you be honest when honesty could cost you the actual relationship? Can you choose just one person when there are other attractive options available? That I think is going to be very difficult for Harry. He is used to having women fall at his feet and he has the pick of the litter. So he still has the pick of the litter now. Is he able to pull one person out that totally

stands above the rest and leaves the others in the distance or blurred away and see that this person is who is going to make me a better person, who is going to make me want to love and adore and cherish and take care of them and and honor and be intentional in this relationship. So that's the question we're looking at to see if we can actually find that within him. Can he stop needing this external validation and can he repair after conflict? Because that is what is huge husband material. Okay.

Marriage marriage isn't the reward you receive because you're finally sick of sleeping around. That's not what it is. It's not like a consolation prize. Okay, you've done you've done all your actions, you've hit every piece of tail that you were trying to do and now here you go. Now you get to get married, right? So

I don't think that's the way it's gonna go. And I'm gonna say something about the women too, because we're gonna hold everyone accountable here. Everyone is accountable for their own shit. And if you knowingly pursue a man with a reputation like Harry's, well, you don't get to immediately become shocked that Harry is now acting like Harry. You know you're gonna get scary Harry. You just know that.

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So you can absolutely expect better behavior from someone who says he's changed, but you also have to date that person standing in front of you. And you have to see if those changes are actually visible. Are they actually happening? You're not looking at his potential, not the man you think he's going to become after he falls in love with you, not the version you see underneath all of those red flags. So this is something that I learned the hard way in dating.

And I've said this many, many times on here that potential is one of the most dangerous things that women fall for with love. They fall in love with potential because potential can keep you somewhere for years. But we've said this before: potential does not give you children, potential does not return texts, potential does not support you in your time of need. Potential does not hold you and listen when.

you are down and out or having one of your darkest days. So you have to see beyond that potential and see who the person truly is standing in front of you. So the question that I'm asking after episode one, because you guys, I'm very intrigued and I wasn't expecting to be. I didn't know I was gonna like this as much as I did. There is something absolutely likable about Harry. He is very charming. There's something likable about Harry. He is funny.

He's self-aware to know he's made a mess of relationships. He doesn't hide that. He's very honest about saying how he's always loved Bomb, loved bomb women, that he, you know, ends up in a toxic relationship, that he tends to tell them exactly what he wants to hear, that he ends up just making out with them rather than having conversations because he likes to avoid the conflict. And I actually do believe that he wants something different here. But I am not convinced yet that wanting something different means.

we're going to get a different outcome from him. And that is what I'm watching for. So I really want you to watch along with me. I don't want to watch for who does Harry choose. I'm watching for does Harry become the kind of man who should be choosing a wife after all. I would never have picked him for this show, you guys. Just based on what I know from his past, how he's been, I've watched him in relationships on different shows that I've talked about before. I would never have picked him for this. I

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I just don't see him as all of a sudden being the marrying type. So I'm anxious to go through this with you and see what you guys think at the end. And I'm also watching the women. I want to see who maintains their standards, who starts becoming super competitive, who confesses their sexual chemistry, who confuses their sexual chemistry with compatibility, because we've talked about that a lot. Two very different things. And you need to be looking for compatibility over chemistry.

Who thinks she can change him? You know there's one in there that thinks that. And who recognizes something isn't right and actually walks away? I hope somebody does. I cannot wait to find out. Because these are the dating lessons that are going to make this show interesting. Now, I want to do a scorecard. I want to do an episode one scorecard. So every week I'm going to keep score. Do I believe Harry is ready for marriage? Hmm. Episode one.

I'm giving him a 5.5 out of 10 on that answer. I believe he genuinely wants marriage. I'm not convinced he's ready to actually do marriage because there's a difference. There's the women that I'm watching most closely. So I would have to say my first two picks for that here in episode one that I would be watching closely is going to be Faith Gonzalez.

And Maya Avery. I'm watching both of them because I'm just getting like a different vibe from them. I'm not really sure of their intent as to why they're they're here, what they're looking for. Are they truly looking for a husband? Are they looking for notoriety? Are they looking for social media content or to be an influencer? Like that's all the things I'm looking for. So I'm also gonna be looking for the biggest red flag, right? I mean, which is the entire premise. 20 fiances, come on. the biggest green flag.

Harry admitting his own judgment and relationships hasn't exactly been stellar and allowing people to actually help him, meaning his friends, his ex-girlfriend, and his brother. Now, my prediction is this. At some point, Harry's old patterns are going to rear their ugly head. They are going to collide directly with the man he says that he's trying to become. And that is the episode that I'm waiting for. So that is episode one. Harry Del Z wants a wife.

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That is where we're at. 20 women have agreed to potentially become that wife for him. His ex is helping choose her. Nothing about this could go badly, right? Hmm, I'm not sure. But next episode, we actually start seeing the dating dynamics kick in. five women are gonna go home in the second episode, and we're gonna start finding out very quickly who is actually looking for a husband and who is simply just trying to win Harry. So I am excited to see that.

I don't know. I I'm I when I really watched this, I was trying to think about how this relate or compares to The Bachelor. I enjoyed this show a lot because I feel like it was a new spin on things. It was a different take. It was very much The Bachelor, but a little bit different. I like that Harry is, you know, kind of honoring himself in the way of saying, This is who I currently am. This is who I've been. I am

All of these things, a flirt, a player, a a love bomber, a narcissist, all of those things. He's he's really admitting to those things. But as we said, two things can be true at the same time. He's also saying, but I'm ready. I'm ready to push all that aside. And I'm ready to find the person that I want to spend the rest of my life with, that I want to have kids with, that I can be the person that I know I'm meant to be. And there's nothing wrong with that.

I'm just interested to see if this is actually going to play out that way. Cause I'm not totally sure. I really enjoyed the first episode. I enjoyed it more than I thought. So that's great. And I enjoyed it enough to go on, well, to watch the whole season. and I I I enjoyed it for so many reasons. I think because of the n the no bullshit on it that Harry is showing who he is.

Right. I think that was very important for them to show that that he is acknowledging who he is. And I think because he's doing that, we are connecting with him a little bit more because of his honesty, rather than coming on and pretending that's not who he is and that he's always been this emotionally available man. And so I do really love that. and so yeah, I am just super excited to see where this is gonna go.

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And I want to know what you guys think. Can a former player genuinely become husband material? Or would Harry's dating history make you run before the first date even started? I want to know that. So send me your thoughts because I am recapping this entire train wreck train wreck. We're gonna go through the whole thing. And on some episodes, I'm gonna bring my girl Ozzy in because there are certain things happening here that I absolutely cannot be expected to unpack alone. I need to have a conversation with her to find out what her thoughts are. Are we on the same page?

I've been dating a lot. So I've seen a lot of these, these traits in people and we're always looking for that emotionally available. So I'm interested to see what her thoughts are on that. So just to recap, I am going to be going through all episodes of Let's Marry Harry. I'm I'm gonna be putting up these first couple episodes, hopefully before the reunion hits. And I, if you're not watching it, go back and watch it and and go along with me. Like,

Try not to rush through it if you can and watch the episode and then give your take, my take. And come on and let me know what you think. You can go to YouTube, you can comment and let me know any of your thoughts on how the episodes played out. Did you believe Harry walking into this that he is truly ready to be married? Or are you just getting that still that fuckboy attitude from him from the moment he walks in? Who struck you right off the bat as somebody who is potentially there for the right reasons? Or

somebody who is just looking to gain some notoriety from this. and what do you think of the friends, the the brother, the ex-girlfriend? Are they an asset to the show? Did they really help Harry in the way they needed to? Are they approaching it from his best interest? Or is it coming from who they feel is a good person for him rather than thinking, does he, is he going to be a good person for them? So I really want you to think about all of that.

You can find me on YouTube at from Mrs. To Miz and anywhere. You can email me at from misses to Ms. Podcast at gmail.com. I really want to hear from you guys and let me know what you're thinking. Give me your score on what you think for this first episode. All right, guys, that's all I got for this week. We'll see you next week. Bye.